10.11.2006

底線


底線要黎做咩?分別場內場外,底線前未必一定得分,底線外卻一定失分;足球有底線、網球有底線、藍球有底線、羽毛球有底線、排球有底線、做人有底線。
現實生活中,我們聽見的底線通常跟女星性感演出有關,「xxx突破性感底線,大膽演出」、「只要劇本有需要,我的性感演出是無底線的」,有底線就即是在框框內,無突破,但過了底線就犯規,點精彩入球都是作廢!所以最精彩演出係「踩界」,過左個框框DD,爭小小就犯規,以為出界又無事,觀眾看得血脈沸騰,這才是精彩難忘的演出!不過我想問,現在大膽演出的底線是什麼?蔡依林在演唱低胸倒掛出場,皮球隨時飛出底線外?還是網上自拍,赤裸真人show,多種花式真人發聲即時旁白,再加賽後簡評呢?定還未過底線,要加埋貓貓狗狗,老鼠蟑螂外星人,先叫做過左底線?性感與色情這條底線已模糊得把兩者二合為一了!

「底線」是每日最多人挑戰的東西,除了以上例子外,感情上,情人總愛測試對方的忍耐底線,你越忍讓後退,佢越踩上黎,係要過界犯規反面先收手,但下次又再出手,永遠希望將你底線推後,永無止境享受這種病態式行為的快感,有些人是因為其佔有慾,一定要馴服對方,所以這種挑戰底線的行為,也會發生在家人與你的身上!


退一步,海闊天空未必可以放諸四海,情人可以忍,忍唔到最多唔要!但工作唔同,可以唔鍾意就劈炮唔撈轉身而離的人,同愛斯基摩族的人數差不多小!偏偏個個上司無理取鬧,每日挑戰你發圍條底線,鬼叫自己無用做你下屬,我忍!將底線再押後!最難忍是大家咁高咁大,但佢係客,無理要求,無理亂吠,你未退得切,佢已經踩到上心口,但大局為重,咬住牙關將條底線拉後,越後情況越嚴峻,更加唔可以發圍反面走!慘羅!從此慘過落水狗,俾人追住打,到時想反抗都已經太遲!


為免太遲,底線同髮線一樣,係未太向後退時,及早將自己條底線拉前,小小事要令對方知過左你底線會發佢圍,並非善男信女,等對方知驚,佢一定暫時收手,但遲d又會伺機再出手,佢再進,你仲有空間退,都咁上下提示對方知道,再唔收手今次發圍會比上次來得更恐佈!咁樣做都仲有機會保住條底線係最佳位置!如果一開始對方已經接受唔到你條底線的位置,及早反面,長痛不如短痛,恭喜你及早脫苦海!


及早知道自己底線的最後位置,不要等有事發生,無得思索時,求其「是但啦!」,將自己條底線無端set後,到你發現時,已經萬劫不復!


15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow...excellent.......

Anonymous said...

我完全同意你個"偏偏個個上司無理取鬧,每日挑戰你發圍條底線" 及 "最難忍是大家咁高咁大"我最近就係遇到呢兩個SITUATION..超難頂呀...我已開始作出有限度反擊及解釋..有時候無論反擊定解釋..人家係要咬住你,你點都唔會得著...anyway...this is sad anyway...

Anonymous said...

Haa You recalled my memory, but my comment may be off topic.
No rule, No game.
There will be more fun when one plays within the 框框.
I lived in hostel. There were so many "mo new" rules. Since we cannot do this , we can do that, the rules trigger our creativity.
E.g NO CELL PHONE IS ALLOWED.
We will hide your cell in our soft toys...In our pillows.. in bewteen our dirty clothes....
NO Chatting during "seft studying period", we created body language to communicate.
STEP ON THE RULES(but not over) ARE ALWAYS FUN!!
So, why we bother to move our or the others' 底線?
JUST be who we are.
Try to play the best game within the situation...
"Natural selection" ar.. the one who adapts to the enviroment will survive.
HUMAN BEING always try to change the enviroment (rules) to fit themselve; however, at the same time, we are weaken our survivial ability. thx for reading.

Anonymous said...

第二段好認同,感情上兩個人總系互相挑戰對方的底綫,不斷將對方的底綫推后,試圖令自己多一D空間去做野,有時候一段感情的髮展史就系兩個人的博弈史。

Anonymous said...

中呀...........我而家已經入左一個萬劫不復既地步......呵~

Brenda.66 said...

beach,
why you always find the right time to say the perfect thing that I need to hear?
I was being test for my bottom line two days ago. Like u said, my line has been push to the lowest. Now I need to set a new one for my new life.

Anonymous said...

睇完覺得好認同...不過請恕小妹智商低...我唔識點做囉...同埋我又覺得唔係個個都識做...咁係咪即係睇下邊個高d呀...咁我咪一定輸梗!!!

Anonymous said...

我都試過被挑戰底線。
雖然我知那人是講笑廢話,但將自己快樂建築在取笑蒙蔑我,老屈我就勢係假。
所以在他出國留學前,我沒有再跟他說過一句話,他知衰後都嘗試氹我、撩我講嘢。
嘿!都未見識過金牛座的硬頸性格。
我亦沒有再見過他了。

Anonymous said...

成世女最憎人試我底線。遇到底線問題, 我會做一隻狗。 處於不安形勢, 比D Signal你"Rurrrrrrr...." meaning "BACK OFF!". 你再嚟吖! I'LL BITE! 情人又好上司又好, 總係貪得無厭, 此乃人性。只有係先發制人先可以「鬥長命」!

Taming of the Shrew? NO WAY!

Anonymous said...

絕對應同你的意見 。
一個無性格的人--有些人永遠沒有自己的底線..因為不斷地向後退 , 當退無可退的時候已為時已晚,在此時可以怎樣啦?不知道 , 因為他可能已一無所有 , 嗚呼哀哉 !
一個好有性格的人---至於另一類人的底線是永不退後 , 他認定這是對的就是對的 , 無論如何也不會受到動搖的 , 但又如何呢 ? 他最後可能會同樣地落得一無所有 。
如果是你 , 會選擇做那一類人呢 ?

Anonymous said...

~.~ agree

Anonymous said...

ummm...我祝你既工作快d順利返 :)
chinkerbella

Anonymous said...

It's an interesting piece on bottom line, and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

That got me thinking, a bottom line merely defines the "minimum acceptable level" for any given group. Under that bottom line, you'll find another culture/ people with their own bottom lines.

So at any given moment, any one of us is probably doing something that is below someone else's bottom line. And it's always interesting when you "crossed over" because that's usually the opportunity to see which group you really belong to, and what is your minimum acceptable level... sometimes you may find your bottom lines are quite different from the people closest to you.

Anonymous said...

嘩~係弦外之音~定係我多心呢??你唔係講緊呀憎話善下化??

Anonymous said...

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